The type of person another individual tends to attract is a product of a few different factors. Primarily, how we perceive and value ourselves has a direct influence on how we choose our mates. If you have a low self-image, do you honestly believe you are going to end up with prince charming, or are you more likely to settle for something less appealing. Lets use these two examples:
Female "A" is a very upbeat, social butterfly who likes to go out on weekends rather than stay in and watch a movie or read a book. She tends to always be the girl, with the cowgirl hat on, sitting upon the bar serving shots of tequila out of her belly button. She occasionally brings home a guy from the bar rather than simply making out with them for the whole bar to see. At the beginning of the night she resembles a poster girl for beauty and pizazz, but by the end she is the train-wreck we are all staring at trying to stay on her own two feet.
Some questions to think about:
Does this girl look like she deserves to be treated with the utmost respect?
Does this girl look like she treats herself with the utmost respect?
Would you wish to get in a relationship with this type of girl?
Now onto the other girl...
Female "B" works as a nurse at a local hospital. She loves helping others out but still feels as though this is not enough and would like to volunteer at a nearby soup kitchen. Occasionally, she goes out after her shifts with some co-workers for a few drinks, but nothing too intoxicating. She favors the shy side when it comes to the opposite sex and does not usually accept drinks from random guys.
Now the questions...
Does this girl seem to respect herself?
Do you believe she deserves to be respected?
Is this a girl you would like to date?
Point being, the amount of respect you show yourself will correlate with the amount of respect a stranger, regardless of sex, will show to you. So do yourself a favor and begin respecting yourself. Highlight your strong qualities and flaws, and instead of trying to improve your flaws, attempt to enhance your positive qualities.
Once you begin to feel better about yourself, others will follow.
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