Wednesday, December 29, 2010

A "New Year's Resolution" That Will Save Thousands

First, some things you should know...

I love dogs.

I love cats.

I have hugged a chicken and it returned the gesture.

I love cows, but I ate them.

I love pigs, but I ate them.

I love chickens, but I ate them.

On another note,

How wonderful must it feel to know that whether you lost your job, girlfriend, or house in 2010, when the 1st of January approaches you have a chance to wipe the slate clean because, hey, it is a new year. Where the hell do you start? What aspect of your life needs improvement and why is this the only time we re-evaluate our current conditions?

Even in the New Year's classic "Auld Lang Syne", its lyrics pose a rhetorical question of whether or not old times should be forgotten. What many individuals perceive as a chance to redefine themselves as individuals is potentially setting themselves up for failure. Don't bite off more than you can chew. Redefining one "aspect" of yourself that will ultimately have the biggest residual impact on the rest of your life is what we are really looking to accomplish.

I am here as a guide to a better 2011 and LIFE.

I may not be able to promise you the happiness you regularly see in the Viagra or Celexa commercials, but I will sure as hell try.

(From an actual Celexa ad: Happy anti-depressant moment, YAY ridiculously fun teeth brushing)

148 days ago I started my New Year's Resolution.

I have been vegetarian ever since.

         I'm not asking you to give up your Big Mac fetish, bacon egg & cheese on a croissant, meat eating ways... yet. What I AM asking you to do is read, take a look at, or even pick up what some say is the one of the most important and influential things this lifetime has seen. If you would like to know what this mysterious goldmine is all you need to do is pay 3 easy installments of $49.99 to the link below, and yes, I am completely kidding. 

"Critical and life-saving"



"This could save your life"

"Read this immediately"

If a Doctor ever used this type of language while in their office, would you listen to what they had to say? 
These Doctor's are speaking of the most comprehensive, influential, life-saving research ever conducting in regards to our diet and nutrition. 


Take a look at "THE CHINA STUDY"
         This is not just a book. It is proof that even if you are unable to perform the most simple exercise, have a laundry list of potentially inherited chronic illnesses, or are simply a hypochondriac, a balanced plant-based diet can solve virtually all your problems. 

If you are willing to try Jenny Craig, Weight Watchers, The South Beach Diet, or Atkins Diet, take a real pledge that will finally work.

Pledge to be vegetarian for a week, a month, or however long you last and see your body and life completely change. 

Links to check out:

If you are somebody who thought about making a New Year's Resolution pertaining to your health, LOOK AT THESE SITES!

It could save your life...

Wednesday, August 18, 2010

Feedback on "The Blame Game"

The type of person another individual tends to attract is a product of a few different factors. Primarily, how we perceive and value ourselves has a direct influence on how we choose our mates. If you have a low self-image, do you honestly believe you are going to end up with prince charming, or are you more likely to settle for something less appealing. Lets use these two examples:

Female "A" is a very upbeat, social butterfly who likes to go out on weekends rather than stay in and watch a movie or read a book. She tends to always be the girl, with the cowgirl hat on, sitting upon the bar serving shots of tequila out of her belly button. She occasionally brings home a guy from the bar rather than simply making out with them for the whole bar to see. At the beginning of the night she resembles a poster girl for beauty and pizazz, but by the end she is the train-wreck we are all staring at trying to stay on her own two feet.

Some questions to think about:

Does this girl look like she deserves to be treated with the utmost respect?
Does this girl look like she treats herself with the utmost respect?
Would you wish to get in a relationship with this type of girl?

Now onto the other girl...
Female "B" works as a nurse at a local hospital. She loves helping others out but still feels as though this is not enough and would like to volunteer at a nearby soup kitchen. Occasionally, she goes out after her shifts with some co-workers for a few drinks, but nothing too intoxicating. She favors the shy side when it comes to the opposite sex and does not usually accept drinks from random guys. 

Now the questions...

Does this girl seem to respect herself?
Do you believe she deserves to be respected?
Is this a girl you would like to date?

Point being, the amount of respect you show yourself will correlate with the amount of respect a stranger, regardless of sex, will show to you. So do yourself a favor and begin respecting yourself. Highlight your strong qualities and flaws, and instead of trying to improve your flaws, attempt to enhance your positive qualities.

Once you begin to feel better about yourself, others will follow. 

If you are one of those individuals who have trouble finding your strengths and seem to recall your downfalls or weaknesses better, contact YouTime Coaching to help create a plan to increase your confidence, self-image, and find activities that bring happiness in your life.

Watch this video that will motivate all of you!

This video features Nick Vujicic, an individual who without medical explanation entered the world with no arms or legs. He was born in Brisbane, Australia and made the challenging move to California and is now accomplishing so much. He is the President of an international non-profit organization known as "Life Without Limbs".

Check his website out to find out more about his amazing story.

Monday, July 19, 2010

The Blame Game

When adverse or undesired events occur in your life, what is to blame? When you receive acclamation, approval, and praise, do you accept the responsibility for such reward? This phenomenon I refer to as "The Blame Game", is nothing less than an individuals explanatory style. As it sounds, an explanatory style is the procedure an individual goes through to explain why good and bad things take place in their lives.

There are three components of an explanatory style and frequently an individual will identify in varying degrees the following:

1. Personal factor - the individual will usually see themselves as the cause of the event 
"I always show up late to events" (internal)   vs. "There sure was a lot of traffic tonight" (external)

This component involves how the individual explains where the cause of the event arises. 

2. Permanence factor - the individual sees the situation as unchangeable
"I always attract jerks" or "things never go my way"

This involves how the individual explains the extent/magnitude of the cause.

3. Pervasive - the individual may see the situation affecting all aspects of their life
"I am always so lucky" or "I never do anything right"

YouTime Coaching focuses intensively on working towards developing a personalized, healthy, and positive explanatory style. In doing so, you will be capable of accepting the credit and appreciation you fully deserve, comprehend your potential for growth, and identify the areas of life in which you can control. 

Each week the blog will feature excerpts of friend's, family, and stranger's lives. They are anonymously donated and will contain minimal identifiable information.The intention behind these real-life examples is to highlight that many people go through similar situations and that you are not alone in how you emotional react during these scenarios. As an audience, you will have the opportunity to give these individuals direct life advice. Following your advice, YouTime Coaching will provide Life and Wellness feedback to the situations and experiences. 

You may recall a time when you lent a helping ear to a friend and decided to play therapist, while they incessantly spoke of their trouble finding a "nice guy". Or possibly of the time when you heard a male friend scapegoat an argument due to it being "her time of the month again". Although these are two specific situations, the explanatory styles of these individuals can monumentally affect other aspects of their lives.

I now present you Ashley, the 24 year old young professional who is employed by a globally renowned business corporation. She generates a very supportive income and possesses an assiduous work ethic.

YouTime: How would you currently rate your dating life?

Ashley: Non-existent. I don't currently go on dates and haven't even been in a serious relationship before.

YouTime: Have you ever been on a date?

Ashley: Yes. I have been on a few, but I would not really consider them dates because of how they went and who they were with.

YouTime:  Why do you think you haven't been on more dates?

Ashley: I would like to go on more dates if it was with the right type of guy but the opportunity hasn't crossed my path. It would be nice if I could go out on dates and leave the bozos out of it.

YouTime: So Ashley, currently, what is your perspective on men, as far as dating goes?

Ashley: Well I know a lot of great men who just so happen to become great friends. As far as dating goes, I feel as though I have been used and tossed aside. I attract mainly jerks that are looking for one night stands.

YouTime: Speaking of attraction, what type of guys do you think you attract and why do you think you attract these men?  

Ashley: Well they are really all over the charts. I have met a few through online dating sites and at bars. The guys that I meet at bars are usually preppy and drunk (laugh). I really don't know much about them, besides that they are in their 20's and usually just want to sleep with me. Regardless of where I meet men, they seem to want one night stands and that is not what I am looking for.

YouTime: So do you feel as though this is usually the case with you and men?

Ashley: This is definitely almost always the case. The majority of my experiences with men have been negative. I do not attract the right type of people.

YouTime: Do you do anything special in order to attract these "jerks"?

Ashley: I just act like myself and I guess I naturally attract them. I don't know what I do wrong. I think the flirting is effected by the alcohol. I also feel as though these guys just smell my weakness and vulnerability. It is almost like I am targeted by them.

YouTime: Last question Ashley, do you feel as though the"weakness" that attracts these guys affects any other parts of your life?

Ashley: It definitely affects my confidence, or lack-there-of, which has an effect on my work day and how I feel about myself. I realize that I am way to hard on myself, but it is just how I have been my whole life since I was little. 

Now.... It is your turn to help!

Where do you think Ashley fits along those 3 factors in an individuals "explanatory style"?

Now is your chance to give Ashley live advice and help improve her life by simply writing a reaction post below!  

Within the next few days YouTime Coaching will give some Life and Wellness coaching advice to Ashley and those experiencing similar issues.

Thursday, July 8, 2010

A Triumph In Life

         30 seconds of paralysis is all it took. After sliding into third base during my senior year of varsity high school baseball, I lay on the field motionless, face down, and scared. Incapable of moving, my mind was flooded with thoughts of permanent paralysis and a lifetime without sports, or even being able to walk. Soon after, however, I slowly regained mobility in my fingers and toes, still waiting for an ambulance to come take me off the field in case of a spinal injury. I was subsequently diagnosed with a cervical sprain and a broken nose, as a result, unwittingly introduced to the field of Sport Psychology.

        Pitching senior year varsity baseball after the injury         

         Rehabilitation was arduous both physically and psychologically. During this time, I became intimately familiar with the physical and psychological rigors of healing and the anticipatory anxiety of resuming an activity of which I had so much passion and love for. Triumphant over the complications associated with my own injury, I developed a general interest in how other athletes and individuals rebound from such tribulations and stressful life events. Specifically, however, the debilitating effect anxiety can have on an individuals existence.